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Bette A. Ludwig, PhD 🌱's avatar

That’s great—it sounds like you had a boss who was supportive and understanding. Trust with bosses can be a tricky thing. It’s definitely easier to build when you have a respectful boss rather than one who’s dismissive or micromanaging.

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Fred de Villamil's avatar

Thank you for sharing your experience. Been there, done that.

One thing it taught me was to set boundaries from the very beginning, and stick to them. Learning to say "no" to my manager was a turning point in my career.

The other one is to use the continuous improvement pattern in our relationships, through weekly 1:1s where you can share exactly where you are.

One problem you might face at that point is understanding how your manager manages up. If your manager protects you from above, then you can act within the boundaries you've set up. If they simply serve as a relay, and are unable to say no or defend their team's interests, then they won't respect your boundaries. When that happens, run away!

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